Why can't I ever say NO!

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• Love starts with a smile, grows with a kiss, and ends with a tear.

• Don't cry over anyone who won't cry over you.
• Good friends are hard to find, harder to leave, and impossible to forget.
• You can only go as far as you push.
• Actions speak louder than words.
• The hardest thing to do is watch the one you love, love somebody else.
• Don't let the past hold you back; you're missing the good stuff.
• Life's short. If you don't look around once in a while, you might miss it.
• A best friend is like a four leaf clover: hard to find and lucky to have.
• If you think that the world means nothing, think again. You might mean the world to someone else. 
• When it hurts to look back, and you're scared to look ahead, you can look beside you and your best friend will be there
• True friendship never ends.
• Friends are forever.
• Good friends are like stars....You don't always see them, but you know they are always there.
• Don't frown. You never know who is falling in love with your smile.
• What do you do when the only person who can make you stop crying is the person who made you cry?
• NOBODY IS PERFECT UNTIL YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH THEM. (Isn't that the truth?)
• Everything is okay in the end. If it's not okay, then it's not the end.

Most people walk in and out of you life. But only True friends leave footprints in your heart.

The most important thing to remember is... Always appreciate the friends that you have.

A fight may come and go very easily, but a friendship could last forever. 

Yesterday on the Tyra Bank's show the topic was "Women who are too nice"... I believe I fall into this catergory..and I am starting to get tired of it. I can never say NO..No matter if inside I am screaming No I can not bring myself to tell it to the person.

Because of this I have been taking advantage of many many times.  People will leave me with their kids even though they know I have 3 of my own...But they know I won't say no.... People will talk to me whatever way they want even if it is disrespectful because they know that before everything else I am a lady and I will not stoop to their level...But because they know this I am treated like a doormat by family friends and even Ben's family.

I don't know why it is so hard for me to just be upfront wiht everyone...I don't like to hurt anyone's feelings but then they are quick to hurt mine. I like to help those who are in need but when I need there is no one around. Just recently I let Ben's sis in law stay with us...(I live in a small 2 bedroom apt, My son's share one room and then my daughter has her own while Ben and I have converted the living room into our bedroom) Anyway she came with her daughter and she was 9 mths pregnant..I felt bad she didnt have anywhere else to go, Her man stood downstairs with my mom in law but since my mil can not stand he she had to stay with me...So I put a mattress on the floor IN MY ROOM because she didnt want to be in my kids room because they wake up too early..While she stood here, she was lazy, couldnt control her daughter(but didnt like when anyone else contolled her) did not contribute one penny to the house and also had the audacity to come out her face to me.... And me like an ass did not say one word to her..I kept it all inside ready to explode but since I did not want to hurt her feelings I said nothing(No I was not scared of her , I would beat her azz in min LOL). 2 days after she gave birth to her baby I finally told her she had to go...Reason I gave was that there just wasnt room for all of us...Of course she was upset because she didnt want to move back upstate and leave her man behind (he is not welcome in her mother's house) but enough was enough..Can you BELIEVE the day she left I did not even get a THANK YOU!...she left and never looked back ..No phone call, no picture of the babies, NOTHING....I was the one who put a roof over her head when others wouldnt.. I was the one who fed her , her daughter and her man, when they were hungry(every day) I was the one who helped her take care of her daughter and who bought the newborn clothes, bottles and diapers because they didnt have 1 damn thing for that baby...and what did I get in return NOTHING!

This happens all the time to me..But I am done .. I am done..Thats it...No matter how much it hurts you I am going to tell you the truth to your face and Tell you No.I am no longer going to be anyone's doormat or hotel or even punching bag.  Do unto others what you would want others to do for you..One hand washes the other...Basically what I am saying now is Do for me and I'lldo for you...Unless I see that the person is a really good person who is grateful for my help..because after all there are people out there who deserve to be helped. I hate to be like that because I am naturally a person who will go that exra mile for my friends and family but I cant do it at the expense of my health or MY children.

I'll be back later on with some more gossip lol.....