No means NO..Understand??

                                          


Well today was a typical Sunday.... My intentions were to do laundry BUT my retarted fiance forgot to leave me money so that I can get it done. What did he think that I could wink these pretty green eyes of mine and get it done for free... I WISH LOL...SO that plan was thrown out the window.   Now I have no uniforms for my brats tomorrow and my 5 big bags of laundry are soon to be six big bags.... I need a dammm washer..which I had before I moved here... I had to give it away because this apartment was just too damm small. That hurt because my washer was brand new but I gave it to my friend who was more than happy to have it.

My mother called me this morning(waking me up) to ask me if I wanted to go with her so that she can get my birthday gift. She is  buying me a bracelet. I know its supposed to be a gift but she asked me what I wanted , so I told her. Well I could'nt go for the same reason I couldnt go do laundry.. NO MONEY... Not even 2.00 for the bus !! What a shame right ??lol...

Of course today could have not ended without some sort of drama happening.. That would have been a miracle. Well the drama began by me getting a phone call from Ben's brother. He wanted to let me know that he and my sis in law were on their way over this way so that my mother in law could see their kids. Mind you their newborn is going to be 2 mths and his mother still has not seen her or even made an attempt to go and see her.

My mother in law really doesnt bother with her grandkids.... Her excuse is that she works. Mind you she has 2 days off a week and neither of those 2 days she can find the time nor energy to come upstairs to see the kids. I literally live right next door. 2 seperate house but they are attached. How hard or tiring can it be??? It has been about 4 weeks since she has seen my kids.


Anyway so when my brother in law tells me that they are on their way, I say Ok...but remember dont hurt your wife's feelings by dropping her off at my house and THEN you go alone to your mother's house. His response was"Don't tell me what to do, I know what I gotta do". I told him this because usually what ends up happening is that he ends up going down without her and my mother in law would then come up to my house and see the kids for about 5 minutes . After 5 minutes her boyfriend starts calling her and she rushes to go down. So basically she spends all of 5 mins with the kids who she hasnt seen in so long! The reason my bro in law leaves his wife upstairs is because he goes down there to smoke weed with his mother's boyfriend(I dont know if she does it with them too) and he knows if his wife was there with his daughters he wouldnt be able to smoke. SO basically my house is a drop off spot for him.


Well I had made up my mind that this time I was not going to allow this to happen. He was going to bring his family downstairs with him no matter what. I called my sis in law and I told her Listen when he tells you to come to my house just let him know that I said I dont feel up to company. She said "Ok"

About a half hour later my bro in law calls me and tells me that they are here..for me to go out and open my front door. I told him No, you came here to see your mother so go downstairs.
He again asks me to open the door. I again let him know that I was not going to open the door. He tells me he wants to drop of his stroller and coats and stuff at my house. I told him that since he was visiting with his mother he should just take his stuff downstairs with him. He tells me "What sense does that make". UHH Do I really need to answer that question? He then tells me that after they visit with his mom that they were going to come and visit me. Now normally that would have been Ok, but I didnt want my mother in law to use me as her scape goat and send them to my house after only spending mins with the kids, so they can smoke. SO I tiold him ..Listen today is Sunday and I need to get my kids ready for school tomorrow which isint necessarily a lie. Well he got uoset and hanged up on me.

Automactically I felt guilty. I felt like maybe I was being a bitch. I felt bad and I started to question myself. I hate when that happens. I know I did the right thing. Then why does it bother me. I dont understand why he would get upset at me knowing that this is the first time that I have ever denied someone an invitation to my house. They are always welcome here no matter the time nor, but there are going to be times that I just dont feel like letting it happen. More for my sis in law then for me because I know this bothers her when they so this to her.It bothers him that I say no but it doesnt bother him when his own mother says no. As a matter of fact last week they were going to come down so that she could see the baby and before they even got a chance to leave their house, she calls Ben and tells him to tell them that she has a headache and she just wants to relax in bed. She said she didnt feel like having company over.UHHH hello your granddaughters should not be condsidered company. They should be welcome at your house any time.


Two main reason why my mother in law never invites me or my sis in laws over is because #1 She has this intense jealousy issue when it comes to females being around her young boyfriend. Her boyfriend is YOUNGER than Ben! #2 is that all they want to do is smoke weed and while the babies are there they arent able to do so, so of course this spoils their moods. First off none of want that piece of shit. He has nothing to offer us, himself or her. Another is that he is ugly and he stinks LOL... I'm sorry but its the truth! One of these days we should all get together and tell her this. Maybe then she will enjoy her grandkids, instead of missing out on them growing up because she doesnt want to be a woman.

At least I stood my ground though. NO is NO and that is that! Sometimes you have to forget about how other people feel and think about yourself. I hate to offend or make anyone feel bad which is why I always get stepped on. OHHH Welll thats life! Enough of this rambling.

Other than that nothing much is going on today. I cooked, we ate and my kids are now in bed(since 8pm). NOw I have to go figure out what they are going to wear tomorrow. OY JOY.... this is going to suck!

Well its time for to Skadaddle..... Goodnight and Take Care....