Why are so many people going private??

Lately I have been receiving alerts letting me know that I will no longer be getting journal entry alerts for some people because they have gone private. What is going on?? Why are so many people deciding to go private? I am curious ..Anybody know whats going on?? I heard that thru reading someone else's journal that there is some drama going on in J-land and apparently there about 1 or 2 people that are going around harassing some people to the point that they have deleted their journal or gone private. I can not understand why some people feel that they have the right to go in and read some one's daily thoughts or about someones daily happenings and then go and harass the about it. What right do they have?? Do they have no lives that they can not contain themselves from invading someones right to express themselves? (once again I dont know exact details of whats going on since I am fairly new to J-land and so far these imbeciles have not found me). I also dont understand why those that are being harassed would give these people the strength to exist.. You are acknowledging that you are hurt or bothered by what they are doing enough so that yoou are giving up your right to express yourselves freely. You are making them stronger by letting them know that they were able to get to you so bad that you had to delete your journal or go private. Why not make them see that they mean nothing and are invincible?? It's like everywhere else in the world, there are bullies all around us. Its soo sad but true. I too would be devasted to learn that those whom I trusted have betrayed me. It's a hard thing to deal with. I hope those of you who are going through this will one day make your way back to J-land .. Don't worry I am in no way, shape or form offended about not being included in the list of private readers. I am fairly new to J-land and I still have not built the awesome friendships that some of you have.(I hope someday I will because it is great to have friends that you can trust) Also I have not asked to be added on as a private reader because I felt that it wasnt in my place being that I am not as close as othersare. Those of you who did go private feel free to stop by anytime to say hi...and I hope someday soon you'll come back. On another note I wanted to talk about something that has been on my mind for a couple of days. A few mths ago I happened upon this lady's journal(I do not remember name of journal)Anyway she had made an entry about the fact that she was upset because she felt that a lot of people who didnt need foodstamps were actually receiving foodstamps. She went on to say that she believed that the only ones who should be eligible for foodstamps should be the elderly, the disabled or the sick. All this stemmed from a run in she had at the supermarket one day. She wrote about how she had went to pick up a few groceries and happened to stand on a line that was taking quite a while. She said that she realized the reason the line was taking long was because there was a young woman with her child paying for her stuff with foodstamps or foodstamp card. This kind of annoyed her I guess. Maybe because the girl was young. Anyway she went on to write that on her way out of the store she noticed the female getting into a quite expensive car(I dont remember the name) She said this upset her even more because how was this girl able to afford such a car when she herself could not. How her and her husband both went to college to get good jobs and still and all they could not afford the car. AAnyway I dont bash people out in their journals because they have the right to feel the way they feel and write about what they want to in their own journals. I just wrote a comment asking her How she was sure that this was the girl's car. Maybe she borrowed it to go shoppping, maybe she rented it for a few days or maybe it was a gift?? I couldnt understand why she was automactically judged. Why she was accused of abusing the system while being able to afford such a car. I didnt write this to her though this was just soomething I was thinking. I also wrote that I received foodstamps even though Ben and I were working. I explained that even though we worked, we were eligible to receive foodstamps. That this was a great help for us being that we have 3 children and bills and such. I asked her maybe this was the same situation with this female. I know I have things that many people would think "How the hell can she afford that while being on foodstamps?? Its not that we can afford it... its just that when we are able to splurge(like during tax season ) we do. I know that I have paid taxes and Ben has as well and if we need foodstamps that I dont see why it is such a bad thing. I dont see why only certain people should be hated on just because some people make more money than others and are NOT able to apply. I would trade spaces with anyone who made 50 to 60 grand a yr if they wanted my foodstamps. We are at the point where we are trying to get a job that will pay us that much. Like Lord willing Ben does get this promotion , I will gladly let go of the foodstamps so that someone else who is in my situation can benefit. Anyway a couple a days ago I bumped into this lady's journal(it has been maybe 2 mths since I read this entry) and I see that she was very offended about what I had commented. I in way shape or form HONESTLY  wrote anything that would offend her(I wish I remembered the name of journal so that I can copy and paste my comment) Her response back to me went something like she didnt care if I was working, and paying taxes.... that I shouldnt have had my kids at the age of 19... on and on I dont remember it all. I felt kind of angry because I had no idea why she was acting like that. My first impulse was to make a comment back to her but I was liike you know what leave it alone. SHe is entitled to feel the way she feels and at least she didnt come to my journal and leave a nasty comment. But I cant get over that it is always like this. People do look down on others who are getting government assistance. I dont know why. Granted no one told us to have children. No one made others drop out of school or no forced others into the street making them homeless. BUT and I am speaking for myself.... Ben and I yes we had children but we both work every day(me not right now ) to support these children.... Yes we receive foodstamps because it a great help and it is out there for people who are struggling to pay bills and raise their children. I do feel bad for those who go into the foodstamp office and apply and get rejected for one reason or the other...But that is not my fault so please dont be mad at those who are accepted. I KNOW there are plenty people who DO take advantage of this help...But again that is not every one's fault and it is not far for those of us who are made to suffer for other peoples actions. It has gotten tothe point that there are so many people out there who look down on this that I am sooo embarrassed and ashamed to shop with my foodstamp card.WHY should I feel like this?? I work hard too... Both Ben and I have been to college too..... Does this mean anything..Not really..... Once again I am not trying to offend anyone ...that is not my style. I am just letting go something that has been on my chest for awhile. If this were a perfect world I would wish us all to be rich and happy but unfortunatley it is not. :( Well I've rambled on and on... Let me get out of here..... Have a goodnight all and take care yourselves :)