Post Thanksgiving Day Thoughts(some adult language)

Well Thanksgiving is officially over and now it's time to get ready for CHRISTMAS. Yep its that time of the yr again where we spend ALL our money on gifts and then go home and regret spending all that money on gifts that people will probably regift anyway LOL...

I speak from experience , it always happens to me. I spend hrs and hrs trying to decide what to get each person. Its grueling!! Only to finally get what I consider the "perfect gift". So happens that I find out that that person didnt think it was the perfect gift for them. Hey don't get me wrong NOT everybody in my family does this but the majority of them do LOL.... AND I don't get cheap stuff... I prob spend about 30 to 40 dollars on each person!

This yr I will go cheap and maybe they'll appreciate it more ..Whadda ya think?? :))))

Well I hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving Day.  My day was pretty good.  I woke up about 11:00 and then I got my family ready to go to my mom's house.

Once there I helped my mother with dinner. I made the Ham, and the stuffing ...I know it's not too much but at least I did something... My mother made the Turkey, Potatoes, Rice, Sweet Yams, Salad, Cranberry(well she didn't make it she served it).. We also had something that we call "Pastelles"... It is a Hispanic dish.. Very good!... I brought Dutch Apple Pie and Pumpkin Pie(no I did not make it actually Sara Lee did LOL and it was delicious!!)

We stuffed ourselves, after thanking God for all our blessings.  After Dinner we were all feeling lazy so we watched a movie(Reign over me) with Adam Sandler. It was pretty good but I didn't like the ending. Left you wanting more.

It was a nice and relaxful Thanksgiving. We all joked around and had a good time.  We came home early because Ben had to be up by 3:00am to be at work by 4:30am. After today was the BIG Black Friday. He just got home about an hr ago(10:30pm). I did not rack up on any Black Friday sales. I did not feel like getting pushed and shoved or even trampled at 5:00am. I dont care how great the sales are!!

Today I went to pick up my glasses and I officially look like a dweeb LOL. I have the Sally Jessie Raphael glasses(you guys do remember her huh??) Ohh well at least I am unique LOL....

I was annoyed at Ben yesterday.. Once again he puts me in a uncomfortable position in front of his family. Let me explain.

Basically he has this younger brother(about 24) who has a girlfriend and 2 lil girls. Now this girl is not the best of girlfriends or moms. She is very immature. But we all dealt with her because this was who he chose to start a family with. Anyway since they have been together they have bounced from house to house with the 2 babies.(I'm sure I have an entry about them in my archives) They stayed with me numerous times because I felt bad for them and I tried to put myself in their shoes. She is lazy. Anyway since they have been together they have stayed with is maybe more than 20 different times. Mind you we have 3 kids and only 2 bedrooms. I dealt with it.

The last time they stood with us I finally had to let her know that I could not have her with me anymore because she had 2 babies and it was not very comfortable for me and my family and frankly I just wanted my home back. She was upset but they  finally moved upstate with her mother. They got into a big problem with the mother and they had to leave the mothers house. Once again they were looking for a place to stay. His cousin took them in ....while staying with the cousin I dont know how or why it happened but it ended up they she cheated on him. She told him that she needed space and that she was too stressed out with all their situations. MIND you he left 2 good jobs for her!! He left 2 apts that they were renting for her because she couldnt deal with the baby alone(she wanted to stay with her mother) She can never just stay in one place. So she left him for 2 weeks. During that time as you can imagine he was very upset. He called us and his mom to tell us what happened. Naturally we were all upset!! We told him she wasnt worth his time anyway. We felt that this was the best thing that could have happened to him. BUT he wasin love and he did what most people in love do he took her back... I said after everything she did while here(and there is many things but too much to go into) and after what she did to him I didnt want to be around her anymore. I told Ben that she was no longer welcome in my house. I understood why his brother got back with her..but that it didnt mean that we all had to deal with her anymore. Ben agreed.

Fast forward to yesterday. They came down here to visit his mother... I specifically told Ben "Do not invite them here".... Next thing you know I see Ben going outside to open the door. I asked him what he was doing and he caught an attitude because I was asking questions.... I once again reminded him that I did not want her here... He replied that she wasnt coming down just his brother was.. Fine whatever.

Next thing you know I hear knocking at my door... I open it and lo and behold, who's there... ALL of them... His brother, the girlfriend and the 2 kids... Do you know how annoyed I was???? But I ate it.... Because I didnt want to be rude.... At first I didnt say one word to her for over a hf hr. I had my back to her while on th computer.... Eventually though I felt uncomfortable because I do not like to be rude... It's just not in my character. SO I talked to her.... she talked back...

They were here for about 2 hrs..Babies running around, making a mess and here it is 10pm and they seem to have no intentions of leaving... I am getting a bit worried here. I am getting a bad feeling. At about 10:30 I see his brother pull Ben aside and I hear them whispering.... I already know what its about..... I am dreading every min that passes by.. Ben comes back into the living room and has the audacity to ask me if I mind that she stay up here with one of the kids because there was only room for his brother and 1 kid in his mom's house... WTF you I freaking mind..How dare you even ask me this and to top it off in front of them??.... Am I supposed to be a Bitch and say UMMM yes I do freaking mind???? I stood shut for a min and then I say "Well you know there is no room here. We do not have the bunkbeds anymore. Instead of Ben saying "yea thats true he goes on to say "Well she can sleep on Kaitlyn's bed(our daughter).... I look at him and if looks can kill he would be dead. I say "Well where is Kaitlyn supposed to sleep?? Again he says "Well she can sleep in the boy's bed or with us.... This freaking guy... I dont say anything after that.

Time goes by and I guess they are waiting for me to say yes or no. I am not going to say anything... If she is going to stay then whatever. Finally at 11 something Ben says Well I have to go to bed, ... Her and his brother go over by the door and start whispering. Finally the brother says I'll be back I am going to go ask Moms something... Ben asks her what that was all about. She comes out and says that he went down to see where they could all sleep in his moms house.  Ben says but why you know ya'll all cant fit down there.. She comes out and says "Well it doesnt matter.. I dont want to stay where I am going to have problems.

Basically I think she got upset because I didnt say yes or no. Frankly I dont freaking care... You just dont come up somewhere, say you going to go back home the same day and then end up staying and then expect everybody to just accept you in. I've done it many times before and thats it.

So they all slept downstairs.  I dont how but I dont care. Some of you may think that I am mean but I am really not, just fed up that I always have to eat my words.

Today I brought it up to Ben and it was turning into an argument. He says that I only think its my house... UMMM no its both of our house.. But he should respect the decisions that I make. I've never ever said NO until yesterday. WHY should I have to accept them and give up MY kids beds?? He didnt want to hear none of what I was saying.....Thats what I hate that he can never see where I'm coming from. I told him off and then we hanged up. When he got home I didnt mention it but the next time he pulls this shit I am going to be a bitch and say NO to each and everyone of them. Poll about this at end of entry.... Be honest!

 

Wow this turned into a long entry... I am going to end this with sharing some pics of my dorky glasses LOL..... Hate the glare of the computer monitor... Webcam is on top of it and I didnt feel like getting the digicam LOL

What do ya'll think of my glasses??? LOL HONEST NOW